When words are not enough: Importance of going “behind” the language use when studying conflicts in close relationships
Аутори
Grbić, SanjaStanković, Biljana
Vračar, Selena
Остала ауторства
Stanković, BiljanaZittoun, Tania
Nikitović, Tijana
Конференцијски прилог (Објављена верзија)
Метаподаци
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Resolving conflicts in close relationships is challenging, especially when emotional injury is
involved, because this entails balancing partially conflicting stakes: maintaining the relationship
while preserving a favorable self- and other-view. Language–focused approaches highlight
important aspects of this process. Discursive psychology reveals how actors utilize rhetorical
devices to impose their own version and co-construct interactional identities. Narrative
psychology focuses on the personal story stabilized through multiple retellings and permanent
self- and other-constructions. However, our study of conflict negotiation and identity coconstruction
in adolescence highlights that, in addition to the analysis of discursive aspects, it is
relevant to conceptualize and analyse phenomenological and affective processes that strikingly
shape the participants’ language use and story creation. These include authentic emotions
(e.g. feeling hurt) and disclosing one’s own vulnera...bility (e.g. insecurities, partial responsibility
for relationship disturbance). The relevance of phenomenological processes is particularly
evident when participants use less constructive strategies for friendship rupture repair, which
entail verbal masking of unresolved tension by minimizing negative feelings, declaring that the
problem has “magically” disappeared and insisting on an unchanged level of closeness. The
unresolved conflict is linguistically, paralinguistically and performatively marked by: (a) the internal
contradictions in the personal story, (b) salient disjunctions of the versions offered by different
actors, (c) pronounced differences between the private and the shared narrative, preventing the
other from understanding one’s authentic experiences, and (d) perpetuated regressions to the
core plot, i.e. issue that caused the conflict. These contradictions, omissions and repetitions
convincingly (though indirectly) point to the affective processes that are either reflexively or prereflexively
present in both individual stories and close personal interactions, thus emphasizing
the importance of theoretical integration of phenomenological and discursive processes when
studying conflict negotiation in close relationships.
Кључне речи:
discursive psychology / narrative psychology / friendship in adolescence / conflict negotiation / integration of experiential and discursive processesИзвор:
20th Conference of the International Society for Theoretical Psychology Theory as Engagement –Book of Abstracts, 05-2024, 151-151Издавач:
- University of Belgrade: Faculty of Philosophy, Department of Psychology
- Université de Neuchâtel
Финансирање / пројекти:
- Министарство науке, технолошког развоја и иновација Републике Србије, институционално финансирање - 200163 (Универзитет у Београду, Филозофски факултет) (RS-MESTD-inst-2020-200163)
Напомена:
- 20th Conference of the International Society for Theoretical Psychology Theory as Engagement, 20-24 May, 2024. Faculty of Philosophy, University of Belgarde
Институција/група
Psihologija / PsychologyTY - CONF AU - Grbić, Sanja AU - Stanković, Biljana AU - Vračar, Selena PY - 2024-05 UR - http://reff.f.bg.ac.rs/handle/123456789/6447 AB - Resolving conflicts in close relationships is challenging, especially when emotional injury is involved, because this entails balancing partially conflicting stakes: maintaining the relationship while preserving a favorable self- and other-view. Language–focused approaches highlight important aspects of this process. Discursive psychology reveals how actors utilize rhetorical devices to impose their own version and co-construct interactional identities. Narrative psychology focuses on the personal story stabilized through multiple retellings and permanent self- and other-constructions. However, our study of conflict negotiation and identity coconstruction in adolescence highlights that, in addition to the analysis of discursive aspects, it is relevant to conceptualize and analyse phenomenological and affective processes that strikingly shape the participants’ language use and story creation. These include authentic emotions (e.g. feeling hurt) and disclosing one’s own vulnerability (e.g. insecurities, partial responsibility for relationship disturbance). The relevance of phenomenological processes is particularly evident when participants use less constructive strategies for friendship rupture repair, which entail verbal masking of unresolved tension by minimizing negative feelings, declaring that the problem has “magically” disappeared and insisting on an unchanged level of closeness. The unresolved conflict is linguistically, paralinguistically and performatively marked by: (a) the internal contradictions in the personal story, (b) salient disjunctions of the versions offered by different actors, (c) pronounced differences between the private and the shared narrative, preventing the other from understanding one’s authentic experiences, and (d) perpetuated regressions to the core plot, i.e. issue that caused the conflict. These contradictions, omissions and repetitions convincingly (though indirectly) point to the affective processes that are either reflexively or prereflexively present in both individual stories and close personal interactions, thus emphasizing the importance of theoretical integration of phenomenological and discursive processes when studying conflict negotiation in close relationships. PB - University of Belgrade: Faculty of Philosophy, Department of Psychology PB - Université de Neuchâtel C3 - 20th Conference of the International Society for Theoretical Psychology Theory as Engagement –Book of Abstracts T1 - When words are not enough: Importance of going “behind” the language use when studying conflicts in close relationships EP - 151 SP - 151 UR - https://hdl.handle.net/21.15107/rcub_reff_6447 ER -
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Grbić, S., Stanković, B.,& Vračar, S.. (2024-05). When words are not enough: Importance of going “behind” the language use when studying conflicts in close relationships. in 20th Conference of the International Society for Theoretical Psychology Theory as Engagement –Book of Abstracts University of Belgrade: Faculty of Philosophy, Department of Psychology., 151-151. https://hdl.handle.net/21.15107/rcub_reff_6447
Grbić S, Stanković B, Vračar S. When words are not enough: Importance of going “behind” the language use when studying conflicts in close relationships. in 20th Conference of the International Society for Theoretical Psychology Theory as Engagement –Book of Abstracts. 2024;:151-151. https://hdl.handle.net/21.15107/rcub_reff_6447 .
Grbić, Sanja, Stanković, Biljana, Vračar, Selena, "When words are not enough: Importance of going “behind” the language use when studying conflicts in close relationships" in 20th Conference of the International Society for Theoretical Psychology Theory as Engagement –Book of Abstracts (2024-05):151-151, https://hdl.handle.net/21.15107/rcub_reff_6447 .